Dear Angela, My friend keeps making bad decisions. She needs wisdom and her marriage restored. Her husband wanted a divorce, but she didn’t, and she wants him back. I don’t think she is saved. There are no children. How can I help her?
Dear Concerned Friend, I think the key to your friend’s bad decisions may be that she lacks a clear knowledge of right and wrong since she doesn’t know Jesus as her Lord. The Bible gives us standards of behavior and character guidelines as a basis for making good decisions. You asked how you could help her. Perhaps you can share your faith with her in a casual way over coffee or lunch and offer to pray for her. You might want to buy two identical devotional books and give her one, then suggest you two get together for a devotional time, even over the phone. As the opportunity presents itself, invite her to accept Jesus as her Savior and help her to develop a personal relationship with Him. God loves her and his concerns are even greater than yours.
Your love and compassion for her is more effective than pointing out where she is wrong and offering “good” advice. Showing her the goodness of God may lead her to repentance. In the meantime pray earnestly for her salvation. The earnest (heartfelt, continued) prayer of a righteous man makes tremendous power available [dynamic in its working].” (James 5:16 AMP) Regarding her marriage: if she will put it in God’s hands and then concentrate on her relationship with Him, He will change her. You can’t change another person, but you can change yourself.